As far as I could see, that's all success really was - money. Of course I love my family, and I get that health is important, and I saw myself in a great relationship. But I honestly thought those things were pretty much enabled and improved with more money. This is pretty much what the American Dream advertises.
The media etc basically say that money is how we keep score. Just go look for advice on the web and I guarantee that the people with the largest followings are touted as having - been employee # 15 at Twitterooglebook or sold their company for $150M, or invest in the hottest start ups.
That doesn’t mean I didn’t have good intentions for myself, I mean my mother always told me “Matt, you’re destined for greatness, I just see it in you!” What a thing to tell your kid, right. I mean that went way over my head almost every time she said it. And it wasn’t until many years later that I started to realize the impact a statement like that has had on my life...
So with the good intentions but no clearly defined intention, and therefore no clarity to my life, I was on the treadmill, in the rat race, part of the machine, even blinders in place at times and just head down working hard, partying hard and living life. Or so I thought. I literally either walked, shuffled or was thrown from job to job, position to position, promoted, demoted, fired, hired, interviewed, shoed in, etc… Moved around a lot and didn’t really get anywhere.
The whole time I wondered, inside my head and at times aloud in the privacy of an empty apartment or hotel room, “what the hell am I going to do with my life?”
I was gathering up a plethora of skills and accomplishments that were quickly culminating in a mixture of mediocrity. Overworked. Well, obsessed with working and always being available. The second my phone stopped blowing up, I was alone. Hard feeling. Unfit… meaning I lacked fitness. I was fit for work because I could work hard… my Fitness for life, sucked.
This is not to say that I didn't have many high points and that I wasn't gathering the raw material for my success story. I just didn't have any idea how to harness it into something that moved myself and others.
So, let me cut to the chase. In 2012 I met a man named Toby LaVigne who was unable to be satisfied merely with money and work like me.
He has an amazing story that you can hear on his site, which resulted in him finding and codifying a series of immutable truths about how humans coordinate with each other to prosper.
I was actually helping him with his latest project which was to start a hero unschool and one of the many benefits from our relationship was a LOT of free coaching.
I was intrigued from the first conversation we had, but it took a while for me to unlearn my old habits in order to truly grasp the profundity of what he had to share, and ultimately have some big breakthroughs about why I am here, what I uniquely have to share, and how to share it.
For quite a while we joked that we should record our conversations, until one day I was reading about mentorship - how valuable it was, how many people wanted to find a great mentor etc. This brought to mind and made me think about all the wrong people that I had listened to.
And I had an epiphany:
I have this amazing mentor, he has this mind blowing methodology that I have not seen anywhere (and by the way, My name is Matt and I have an information addiction, sated via web surfing for life and business success hacks et al. And I don't mean like a tiny addiction, we're talking 16 hours without getting out of my chair kind of a habit. So suffice it to say... when I tell you that I found something unique and powerful in my mentor, I can back it up). So got thinking..."I'm really good at sharing research and information for best practices and this is the best, best practice I've ever seen...why don't I share this?!"
It was kind of a "duh" moment. As I have seen Toby coach many people, many times... our purposes are right in front of our noses.
And that's where Convos with Mentors was born.
I don't know exactly where this project will go, but so far I DO know this;
My purpose is to help people focus on what's most important. And what's most important is your purpose. So I am committed to showing anyone and everyone the path to their purpose through my podcast, blog and hopefully more.
So enough about me, let's talk about you. Join our conversation and feel free to send me your questions for Toby or myself, and we'll build the kinds of lives most people only dream about, together.