First a few from me:
74 Thought Provoking Questions to Get You Pondering
Sometimes you need to re-establish your balance. Perhaps you’ve just gone through a traumatic situation, or you’re feeling a little lost and don’t know where your life is headed. This course is excellent if you’re feeling like this as it gives you the strength to lead yourself in the face of setbacks. What it teaches is that the real strength you need to find, ultimately rests within you alone.No one else can give you this clarity, and it’s foolish to live your life depending on other people to do so.
This article will ask you many deep and thought provoking questions, which may be a little bit hard to answer. But work through each of them, and look inside to what you really feel and you’ll soon find you know what you’ll do. There are no right and wrong answers with these, their entire goal is to make you think, and give you a bit of a struggle as you may find it difficult to answer a few of them. If you need a little confidence before you get started, this course is a great boost, and teaches you how to take control of yourself, today.
- What are the things that stand between you and complete happiness?
- What will people say at your funeral?
- Standing at the gates of heaven, and God asks you “Why should I let you in?” What do you reply?
- If you lost everything tomorrow, whose arms would you run into to make everything ok?
- Does this person know how much they mean to you? When was the last time you told them?
- If you could send a message to the entire world, what would you say in 30 seconds?
- If you received enough money to never need to work again, what would you spend your time doing?
- If today was the last day of your life, what would you want to do?
- What would you change about your life if you knew you would never die?
- If your entire life was a movie, what title would best fit?
- How would you describe yourself in 5 words?
- What are the chances you’ve passed up on that you regret?
- How do you apply the learning from this regret to your actions today?
- What would you do differently if you knew that no one was judging you?
- If you could watch everything that happened in your life until now, would you enjoy it?
- If you could ask a single person one question, and they had to answer truthfully, who and what would you ask?
- If you could start over, what would you do differently?
- When you’re 90 years old, what will matter most to you in the world?
- Are you holding onto something that you need to let go of? What’s stopping you?
- Would you break the law to save a loved one?
- Do you ask enough questions, or are you happily settling for what you know already?
- How do you celebrate the things you do have in your life?
- When it’s all said and done, will you have said more than you have done?
- When was the last time you tried something new?
- What were you doing when you last lost track of the time?
- What is the difference between living and existing?
- If you had a friend that you spoke to the same way you speak to yourself, how long do you think that person would allow you to be your friend?
- If you had to teach someone one thing, what would you teach?
- What makes you smile?
- What drives you to do better at something?
- What do you really love to do? Do you do it often? If you answer no, why not?
- What can you do today that you couldn’t do a year ago? What will you be able to do at this time next year?
- What is the last thing that you’ve done that’s really worth remembering?
- What gets you excited and driven to achieve?
- When was the last time you travelled somewhere new?
- What do you want most out of life?
- If karma was coming back to you, would it help or hurt you?
- If you could go back in time, once, and change a single thing – what would it be?
- If you had a year left to live, what would you achieve over the next 12 months?
- If you could ask for one wish, what would it be?
- What do you “owe” yourself?
- When you think of your home, what immediately comes to mind?
- How do you spend the majority of your free time? Why?
- What did you want to be when you were a kid?
- What have you done to pursue your dreams lately? How about today?
- What terrifies you the most?
- What are you looking forward to?
- Describe the greatest adventure of your life
- Where would you like to live? Why haven’t you moved?
- What have you done that you’re most proud to have achieved?
- If you dropped everything to pursue your dreams, what would you be risking?
- What is your greatest strength?
- What is your greatest weakness?
- What did your life teach you yesterday?
- What have you done today to make someone’s life better?
- Whose life have you had the greatest impact on?
- What makes you special?
- How many people do you truly love? What are you doing for them?
- What bad habits do you want to break?
- When did you not speak up, when you know you really should have?
- Describe the next five years of your life, and your plans, in a single sentence
- If you spend a day watching movies when you should be working a day wasted or well spent?
- Would your life be better or worse, if you knew the time and place where you would die?
- What is honor, and does it even matter anymore?
- Would you be a martyr and risk your reputation by standing up for what is right in front of your peers? Or is it better to be pragmatic and do nothing?
- Could you be persuaded to kill someone? If you answer no, how much money would it take to change your mind?”
- What would happen if you never wasted another minute of your life, what would that look like?
- Would you rather have 10 years of excellent health, or 30 years of average health?
- Is being open-minded a virtue, if it’s causing destructive ideas to spread throughout society?
- Do you consider yourself the hero or the villain in your story?
- How much control do you really have over yourself?
- When did you last push the boundaries of your comfort zone?
- What have you given up on?
- Who are you really? Describe yourself without using your name, or any attributes given to you by society and really think. Deep down, who are you?
The philosopher from the French Enlightenment era, Voltaire, advises you to judge people by the questions they ask. You’ll get to know someone better if you’re asking them the right questions, and in the same light if you ask yourself the right questions, you’ll get to know you. This course has some great advice on getting to know how people tick, and learning more about yourself. If you’re up for a challenge this 10 day meditation course is great to help you get you mind in order, no matter what you’re thinking. After your 10 days are up, this recent post covers a wide range of meditation mantras that you can use to continue your journey. All you really need to do to make a change is to start asking yourself these questions and begin your own journey to discovering what really makes you, you.
I would miss him.
Seth Godin wrote several articles about – If you stopped being around tomorrow, who would miss you? Would we miss you?
Here is an article by Angelica Nohra about the same topic, it seems to have affected her greatly. Who would miss you if you were gone?
From another Seth article:
What would happen to your audience if you shut the doors tomorrow? (I know what would happen to you, that’s not my question… what would happen to them?)
What would happen to your customers and to your prospects if you stopped doing your work?
If you stopped showing up, if you stopped selling them something, would they miss you if you were gone?
If the airline went away, we’d just find another airline. If the cookie cutter politician went away, we’d just vote for someone else. If the typical life insurance agent…
Does it matter if it’s you doing the work?
I remember first reading these articles from Seth and remembering about how wild it was. The idea that someone could stop doing something and strangers would miss them. I’ve never met almost all the people I’ve follow online, and I would miss them if they stopped shipping their work.
Surely some people would miss me if I stopped doing what I do now. In many different respects. This doesn’t mean the person died or fell off the face of the Earth. It just means that if they stopped producing content/contributions/gifts/outputs for the world and their audience, they would be missed.
I would be missed.
And on what scale? I love scale. Scale is crucially important to always keep in the back of your mind. Getting more scale or understanding the scale at which you wish to operate. Do you want to be local? Do you want to be national? Internationally known and revered?
What does it take to get you there? What would it take in sacrifice? In effort and conduct for yourself? What would it take and are you willing to invest that into the venture?
Here’s some of the people I would miss…
Tim Ferriss… I would miss that guy’s stuff. Seriously. Especially his podcast and a metric ton else. He’s a person I follow, that I like, that I see and emulate in ways and who teaches me. With that value, he would be missed.
Ryan Holiday, stoic writer and philosopher and teacher, he is a pretty cool guy. I look forward to his book recommendations and his new projects. I would miss him.
Toby LaVigne. This is my mentor and friend. He’s guided me on some wild self realization and growth over the last 5+ years at the time of writing this post. And he’s a scholar and gentleman. Someone who is impacting the world greatly! With Vaikido and the Heropreneur Show!
There are more, I won’t be getting into them. This list isn’t comprehensive it’s more to show an example… There is significance in what people do.
There is significance in what we all do. And as we get bigger, we go harder and farther, we become more involved and more excited and more emotionally connected and committed, things are probably going to get amazingly better.
We’ve got to make impact. I don’t know anyone at the core of themselves doesn’t want to at least make a little impact. It brings in a bunch of good feelings and meaning to our lives.
And that impact is not only on others, impacting ourselves is the biggest gift we can give to ourselves. We learn, grow, discover and experience great things! Imperative to our success!
Be great. Do great things. Publish and talk and impact people. And never stop!
Enjoy your day,
What is the current state of affairs? Over half of the workforce is disengaged at some level (Source). They say at least a certain amount of people are totally disengaged with what they are doing as far as work is concerned. They just don’t want to be there, and for whatever reason, they are still there.
I have always supported two possible solutions for this problem:
- Fire their ass to the curb and get someone new – this is important and I put it first because this is how I am many times. If the person is cancerous and cannot be saved (which this is an instantaneous decision usually, do you want to try and save them or do you deem them a lost cause that must be released to the wild?) they should be fired immediately and the poisoning/bleeding stopped quickly and completely.
- Save them and Train Them – this is more of a labor of love in a way, and something where you can pour value onto someone and they will achieve to a new level. Look to the criteria above for figuring out if this person is “save worthy” and if they are, what you should do is enact this rule, rule #2, in order to save them
So Two rules for running your business, your crew, your staff, Your Beastmode Crush/Kill It Team…
I would say this, everyone can be saved… With the right “come to Jesus” talk, anyone can get the picture and get in line. Or they will just get out because they will realize it’s not a fit anymore. What they will also realize is what the tone is, the environment, the pace and the expectations. If they can rise to the challenge, they’ll know and they’ll stay. If not, they will usually walk, or give them a purposeful shove.
And this article is about getting people in line, not reinventing the wheel or going to some new woo woo heights where we all sing songs and sit in a circle legs folded over one another and holding hands… no, this is not that article nor is this the publication for that type of support. Look elsewhere. Here we’re talking about Beastmode, and yes, it takes some nurture of course, once you’ve realized nurture is well worth the effort.
Alright, Rule #2, Save Em and Train Em – Here’s the highlights
- Evaluate your people and see what they want – Find out motivations, reasons, why’s, purposes, intentions, etc. Make it real for them whenever possible.
- Find Out How they can get it through working for and with you – Relate what they want to success in the job/position/endeavor/undertaking. Enroll them.
- Be an/the Example to them – It comes from the leader and all the way down, not from the bottom up.
- Help Them – This is the big one here, you have got to help them and each other. As leaders, help the ones you lead. As a leader, help other leaders. Teamwork makes the dream work!
- Support Them when they want to leave (promotion or resignation) – If they grow beyond the position, promote or lateral move to another company or opportunity. Simple and supportive!
I say each other and focus on team here because I don’t know who you are reading this article. I am not sure of the station in life which you have managed to achieve. What I am sure of is that you are learning something. And I want you to take away this – make yourself and others better through your work, whether you are an example of exemplary behavior or you are a teacher of some sort know how to do the damn thing; go and get it done.
You may have heard the phrase “you have got to grow where you are planted”
Well that’s true, you do, and you can always get repotted by someone into new soil, in a bigger pot, in a different area of the garden or the world for that matter. But remember this: as you go, you grow, and you decided the direction of that growth through your actions in every minute. It is all a choice to you how you act and react.
Whether you want to be saved or you are doing the saving. It is all always a choice. Remember this!
So as we look at implementing Rule #2, you may or may not have the power to implement on/with another person, so remember you can always implement this on yourself. Let us go deeper.
Evaluate: Always be evaluating 2 things, yourself and your people around you. You are letting them be around you, you are choosing that, so make sure you are evaluating how they are doing and performing. Watch closely and objectively. Don’t be over analytical and also do not overlook things that are glaring issues.
If you see issues. Address them. If there is a great thing happening, reinforce it and focus on that strength. When people succeed, hold them up and show what success looks like and understand it for yourself, the team and the individual and watch your people and how they succeed or fail.
Find Out How: Here you want to look at how people can get to where they want to go in life, short term or long term (which will change and modify and get lost and then found again etc) while also seeing where you want to go in life as the leader. I’m talking directly to you.
In this moment, where are you? How is your plan coming along? Do you have a plan? Where will you be in a decade? Are your eyes on the horizon? Are your shoulders squared up? Are you moving forward, onward and upward? What’s your future? Do you see it? What does it look like? Where are you? What are you doing? Who are you with? Where are the people you love?
Answer these questions for yourself and do not be afraid to ask them of others. You would be surprised how many people are not contemplating these things and then you will be even more surprised at who is blown away, taken aback or otherwise stunned by your line of thinking and questioning. Try it. I dare you! Then make use of these are motivators, visions, goals and dreams for your people. Grow them in the mindset of achievement, accomplishment and satisfaction in their lives.
Be The Example: Exemplary attitude, action and outlook. Be an example for yourself first and then that will be shown to others. You have heard that people watch what you do and do not listen to what you say. That is because the age old adage “Actions Speak Louder than Words” is absolutely an adage because it is an age old TRUTH.
The more you listen to what people say the less you see what they actually do and how they become great or become losers. And it doesn’t take any effort to become a loser. So you’re going to have to work here. And work smart as well as hard. People see examples both good and bad. And you can lose credibility in an instant with anyone with a wrong move while taking years to build up to that point of being taken seriously or trusted.
The loss of trust or credibility is not a zero sum game. We can ask for forgiveness, we can explain and we can save face or regain our standing by being honest, of integrity and grit. We got this, and we have to show people that perfection is not the goal, success, accomplishment and satisfaction are the goals.
Note: Do not build yourself up to please others. Build yourself up to please yourself and not at the expense of others or yourself. To know you have the inner strength and fortitude to make the worst outcome and possibility a livable situation. You can strive through with self confidence and inward self reliance that you have built up an internal reserve to weather the worst that life, chance and circumstance can produce while continuing onward, upward and forward for your own personal success. Build for you and others will get the benefits along with yourself as you lead them and be a shining example.
Help Them: Always help when you can. You don’t have to bend over backwards all the time, but bend a little at least. Go above and beyond whenever you can. No one gets anywhere doing just the minimums not to get fired. If you do that you get rule #1 HARD. I fire those people. I have fired those people so fast and I actually smile when I do the firing. I come back and I breath a sigh of relief. I know the poison that is in them and if you are one of those people who are reading this right now, you had better smarten up and straighten up. NOW!
This world is no longer accepting tickets purchased at the old bare minimum pricing. You have to pay up and pay up good with: Hard and Smart work. Dedication. Focus. Clarity. An Understanding, Curiosity and a Thirst for Knowledge. Being a Multi-Threat in the Marketplace. Excellence. A Brass Ring Mentality. An Obstacle Is The Way Mentality.
I could go on an on. The bottom line is this: Help when you can.
It might even hurt you sometimes. You might miss a meal, an outing with friends, your favorite show, time at the gym, time with your spouse or your kids, but seriously…
Get into some serious Beastmode Mentality here and go for the top. Not at the expense of others but through your own personal achievements, the laser like focus you can bring to achieving your future, and helping those who are in the Rule #2 Save Em category. Be that leader and lead from these 5 steps.
Support Them: Especially when they want to leave. When employees are ready to “go” whatever that means, it’s time for you to support them in what that means for them. And for yourself when it is time for you to go. You might see you have to move to a new company, start your own venture and give less time to your job or friends or family, in order to get to where you see yourself in life.
Do it. Understand it, understand why and see how, and take the leap. Just don’t leap to your death and do not let someone else who is less experienced leap to their death either. Be the sheepdog for your people and take care of them. Strengthen and support their development and growth.
This is where team comes into play. If you keep an employee just because they sell a lot and make you money or they do a ton of work for you and it will make things harder for you if they leave. Then you’re a bad leader and lazy, point blank. In that scenario you are trying to extinguish a star. Good luck and I mean that with the utmost sarcasm.
In other words if you don’t support others and their success in whatever way that is meant for them, you need to reevaluate back up a step, and start being a better example of integrity, which is what this is all about. Not a miser of talent and but a refiner, developer and harvester of talent.
Rule #2 – Save Em!
- Evaluate for why, motivations, reasons.
- Find out how they get what they want, working with you!
- Be an/the example as the leader and lead!
- Help them actively to grow and achieve.
- Support them as they grow and if they want to leave or move up!
Enjoy your day,